As Thanksgiving approaches, AKEDA is grateful to YOU – our community, partners, and donors for empowering us to support individuals and families affected by eating disorders. Your dedication makes healing and hope possible across Alaska.
But we know that many people who experience an eating disorder may not be thinking of Thanksgiving as a time of gratitude, connection, and celebration. Rather, it can be a season that brings unique challenges and mounting anxieties. The emphasis on food and the pressure of family gatherings may feel overwhelming. However, with the right support and coping strategies, this holiday can be approached with hope and healing. If you or a loved one is navigating Thanksgiving with an eating disorder, know that the Alaska Eating Disorders Alliance (AKEDA) is here to help. You are not alone.
Tips for Those Struggling with an Eating Disorder
Create a Plan in Advance – Discuss your Thanksgiving plans with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist. Outline when and where you will be eating, potential triggers, and coping strategies. Knowing what to expect and having a plan in place can help reduce anxiety.
Bring a Supportive Companion – If possible, bring someone you trust to Thanksgiving gatherings. Their presence can provide comfort and reassurance, especially if they understand your journey and can discreetly support you through challenging moments.
Take Breaks and Self-Check – Step away from the table or gathering if you need a moment to regroup. Take a walk, practice deep breathing, or engage in another grounding activity. Remember, it’s okay to take care of yourself and prioritize your needs.
Set Boundaries – It's okay to say "no" to questions, comments, or situations that make you uncomfortable. Whether that means politely redirecting conversations about food and weight or removing yourself from triggering discussions, assert your right to protect your mental health.
Practice Self-Compassion – Thanksgiving can be difficult, and it’s natural to experience complex feelings around food and body image. Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend. If you find yourself struggling, remind yourself that your feelings are valid and recovery is a journey.
Tips for Family and Friends Supporting a Loved One
Listen Without Judgment – Offer your loved one a listening ear without judgment, assumptions, or pressure. Instead of focusing on food or behavior, ask how they’re feeling and how you can support them during the holiday.
Avoid Commenting on Food and Body – Refrain from making comments about what your loved one or anyone else is eating, as well as comments on weight, body size, or appearance. Instead, keep conversations focused on meaningful connections and gratitude.
Be Mindful of Triggers – Be aware of the potential triggers for your loved one, such as specific foods or conversations around dieting and weight. Work with them to create a supportive environment and help guide conversations to safer topics.
Respect Their Boundaries – If your loved one sets specific boundaries around the holiday, respect them. This could include leaving a gathering early, not participating in meal-related activities, or needing time alone. Your willingness to respect their boundaries can go a long way in fostering trust and safety.
Educate Yourself About Eating Disorders – Learning about eating disorders will empower you to better support your loved one. Understand that eating disorders are complex mental health conditions, not choices. AKEDA offers resources, workshops, and connections to professionals who can provide guidance and support.
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